Bad influence?
September 30, 2009Since young, I have been taught that I should not mix with those that are bad guys, and stay away from bad influences. ‘the bad guys!’ And that if I mix with those people that are positive, I will stay positive.
But… I have also learned that I should not judge people and no matter what’s their past, what bad things they have done… I should embraced that and tolerate each other.
Then I thought… most people stay away from people that they don’t like, including me as well. But these people that has been isolated, hated, and ignored… it’s such a pity that they are alone and no ones like them etc. I was just wondering.. maybe we should give these people a second chance? Not like as if we have the power to renew their… I mean just be a little friendlier and nicer to them…
Some people don’t realize they have offended others, or irritated people… or said the wrong thing to others thus causing them to be labeled ‘mean, irritating, annoying, even stupid’… how many of us actually tell them face to face? ‘hey, that wasn’t appropriate, she was offended by your words, maybe you shouldn’t have said that…’
Some take it negatively…’who are you to tell me that, F*** off’
While some will take it constructively…’okay, I shouldn’t have said that’
It’s just a random thought… the way we treat people…
if we focus on what others have done(wrong), then we will always be blinded by what our minds tend to see. Instead, look at the good side of certain people, focusing on the positive side (I’m sure there is!), then we not only can just be their friends, but help to do better. They’ll not only accept us, but listens to what we say. use love to influence, love from our hearts not our minds. jz my thoughts